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If you listen to how people talk about competition, you’d think it’s either the secret to success or the root of all stress. Some people swear competition brings out their best. Others say it creates pressure, anxiety, and unhealthy behavior. Both sides have a point, which is why competition tends to get misunderstood.

I recently listened to a podcast episode discussing this very point. In the episode, psychologist Stephen Garcia, PhD, breaks down how competition shapes behavior at work, in relationships, in sports, and even on social media.

What drives competitive behavior

One of the key ideas Garcia explains is that people don’t compete equally with everyone. We’re most competitive with people we see as similar to us such as coworkers in the same role, teammates at a similar skill level, or friends who feel like peers. That’s why competition can suddenly feel personal, and our brains start asking, “How do I stack up?” This comparison instinct isn’t always bad. It’s part of how we learn and improve. The problem is that comparisons increase when stakes feel high and expectations aren’t clear.

When competition helps

According to Garcia, competition can increase motivation, effort, and performance when the goal is clear and the rules feel fair. In those situations, competition pushes people to prepare, focus, and raise their standards. Many people do their best work when there’s a challenge to meet and something meaningful to aim for. This kind of competition helps people stay engaged and focus on the task, not on outperforming someone else.

When competition hurts

Trouble starts when competition shifts from the work to the people. Constant comparison increases stress and pulls attention away from improvement. Instead of asking how to get better, people start worrying about rankings, recognition, or falling behind. Collaboration suffers, and unhealthy rivalries can form even among capable teams. Garcia points out that overly competitive environments often feel exhausting, not energizing. People aren’t less motivated, they’re just motivated in the wrong direction.

What actually works

One of the most practical takeaways from the episode is the idea of redirecting competition. Rather than trying to eliminate it, Garcia suggests anchoring competition to standards, goals, and progress. When people compete against expectations instead of against each other, performance becomes steadier and stress drops. The drive to win doesn’t disappear. It just gets pointed somewhere more productive. Competition works best when it drives purpose and helps you stay on task. When the focus stays on improvement, discipline, and doing the work well, results tend to follow without turning everything into a scoreboard.

If you are feeling the weight of a long job search, know that your experience is valid. The research makes it clear that these reactions are common and understandable. Stress builds quickly when work is uncertain, and it can affect every part of daily life.

You do not have to manage this alone. Speaking with PA CareerLink^® staff can help you regain focus and reduce some of the pressure. It is a simple conversation that helps you understand your options and plan your next steps with more confidence.

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